Tamar Braxton for VULKAN Magazine
Tamar Braxton is letting it all hang out for the new issue of VULKAN magazine.
In this issue, Braxton talks about the Black Lives Matter Movement, touring with 90s girl group Xscape, her last album “Bluebird of Happiness” and much more.
It’s not secret that Braxton recently filed for divorce from estranged husband Vincent Herbert. During her sit-down with the publication, Braxton also offers up some advice for those who may be feeling “stuck” in a relationship.
We live in a time where social injustices are being spoken about more than ever; with the Black Lives Matter movement to the recent events where football players are taking a knee at football games; do you fear that Logan may grow up in a time where social injustices are at an all-time high? If so, how do you prepare and educate him on what may come?
I am scared out of my whit because he is 4 and I look at him like a baby but in my mind, I know that I am raising a black, successful man. These are things that I am instilling in him. With that being said, I have to be honest with him while realizing that he is 4 years old because don’t want to scare the daylights out of him. I think that with my honesty and with him being able to trust me, he will be all right. For example, it was really hard for me to leave him yesterday because we are now starting the tour and I knew that I wasn’t going to have a lot of time but rather than to leave him in the hotel all day I make it a point to sit him down and be open and honest with him. “Listen, Logan, mommy has to go to work and the only reason why you aren’t going is because of X, Y, Z, but I will be back” and I am always back on the day that I told him I will be back. This way, he knows that I’m not ever going to lie to him and I am always going to keep it straightforward. That is the relationship that I have to keep with him.
When he gets older I am going to sit him down and tell him “you are a black man you have to be very careful, be respectful, be mindful and at the end of the day things will hopefully go your way but there is something called racism in this world and some people don’t look at people like you as an individual. I don’t care what color you are or what religious background you have but some people don’t think like us. Be you, be mindful, and be respectful at all times then hope for the best. People will notice.”
Have you experienced racial inequality within your career and how did you, as a black woman, overcome that?
I don’t know if it is about being black… I think it’s about the genre of music. I feel like r&b does not get the recognition that it deserves. I didn’t see the AMA’s on Sunday but I was a little offended – I can name at least 3 r&b singers that could have, should have, including myself, been on that stage and ripped it to pieces. Now, I love Christina Aguilera and have lots of respect for her, however, she had to sing the entire tribute? What about the r&b people? Are r&b singers ever recognized at shows like the AMA’s? Or why is it not televised at the Grammys? R&B is the core of music and where music is today and while you can say pop is great we are still singing chords, we are still singing hooks… For me, I don’t look at it as a race thing I look at it more about of how my music is classified. It’s a little looked down on, not as appreciated.
Now that you have released your final album and are touring in The Great Xscape tour, what’s next?
There are a lot of things going on behind the scenes and not necessarily in front of the camera. Television is something that I fell in love with and for me, it is the most satisfying. I love to give other people opportunities, hear other people’s stories. I love to interview people, find out their background, find out what makes them excited about life. That is what makes me excited about getting up in the morning and going to work. I’m still doing the Braxtons and Tamar and Vince is wrapping up but I do have two other shows in production. I’m not saying that I’m never going to do another album but as for right now, this feels right and until I have something else to say I am not going to do another one and I have Bluebird of Happiness to thank for that. It’s about finding your wings, being 40 and taking risks and jumping into my destiny.
What do you want to be remembered for?
Personally, I want my legacy to be known as the girl that never gave up on herself, the girl that seen herself as enough, and the girl who always kept trying. That has been my message from day one because although you may get hurt once and awhile as long as you don’t give up, you will win. Tamar is a winner.
You’ve been extremely vocal about the ups and downs of your relationship, especially in your latest album Bluebird of Happiness – what advice would you give to young girls who may be in a similar situation?
Make sure your situation is the issue. You can’t be in a situation because of a fight, you don’t want anyone else to have him, you’re so deeply in love with him but he doesn’t love you back or you aren’t being treated the way you want or the way you deserve to be treated. You have to respect and love yourself first before somebody else can love and respect you as well. Don’t forget that the things you put out there are the things you will get back – if you put positivity out, you will get positivity. If you put negativity out, you will get negativity. That’s it, that’s all I got.