Despite the recent controversy surrounding her relationship with fiance Dwyane Wade, actress Gabriel Union is in-love and there’s nothing anyone can do about it.
The Being Mary Jane actress chatted with Glamour about love and relationships. She even has some tips for the ladies out there come Valentine’s Day.
DO forget your “type.”
“It worked for me. When I met Dwyane, his ‘résumé’ looked like crap: athlete, going through a divorce, nine years younger than me. None of that screamed, ‘Let’s have a lasting relationship.’ Then, after I had a heart-crushing breaking with yet another immature jerk, I thought, it can’t be any worse if I date a fetus. Let’s just see what happens. Turned out he’d been on his own since he was 15. He had wisdom that comes with facing an insane amount of adversity. He’s sweet, funny, honest about his shortcomings. When I put my preconceived notions to the side, I found someone cool.”
DON’T put up with a friend-versus-boyfriend tug-of-war.
“Some friends act possessive and say, ‘You’re not spending enough time with me.’ Huh? Remember when we made our vision boards and the dude was in the middle? You’re sup- posed to be happy for me. Thankfully, my girls are like, ‘High-five!’ And D likes to be around them too. If there’s weirdness, either something’s wrong with the friends—or the boy. Investigate. And sift accordingly.”
DO show him your feelings. Daily.
“Dwyane generally gets up before I do to go to the gym, and he’s never left without kissing me and telling me he loves me. As for me, I am complimentary to the point where I am almost a little Chester the Molester-y. I think he’s so delicious. Watching him get out of the shower never gets old. Never. It’s not like he ever wonders what I’m thinking, but usually he’s thinking, She needs a cold shower!”
DON’T write off an ex (or get back together) without really thinking it through.
“When you’re debating whether to go backward or forward, you have to look at the original issue. [When Dwyane and I broke up briefly in 2013], it was because of distance and scheduling. I finished filming the show, then I flew to Vegas right away to start shooting Think Like a Man Too. I couldn’t take time off, and I missed some quality togetherness we desperately needed. Over the summer, I reassessed priorities. I’d always wanted an awesome career with back-to-back projects, but I realized I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my relationship for it. Moving forward, I decided my work schedule has to make sense for our family. Bottom line: If an issue’s a deal breaker, it’s a deal breaker. If your relationship isn’t something you’re willing to give up and you can compromise, do so.”
Photo: GLAMOUR/Jeff Lipsky
Gabrielle Union is all-smiles, she she covers the December issue of ESSENCE.
During her sit-down with ESSENCE, Union reveals the ten things that bring her joy and how a conversation about Beyonce at a beauty salon changed her life.
This issue of ESSENCE is on newsstands now!
Union on rejection and wanting to be chosen:
“There’s this intense desire for us all to be chosen by a man, or a job, or chosen for fame, whatever. But when you’re in the public eye and you’re not chosen, the rejection feels public,” says Union. “So to cover the wound, you attack the person who is chosen.”
On her lead role in Being Mary Jane:
“It would be easy to label Mary Jane a freak…but enjoying sex doesn’t make you a ho,” says Union. “I hope [Being Mary Jane] widens the conversation. I hope people will be more forgiving of those who explore their sexuality unapologetically.”