Who knew a basketball player could be features in a magazine like Elle. Miami Heat frontman Chris Bosh sat down or a carefree interview with the magazine. In this Heat Wave interview, Bosh discusses women, his fiance, the NBA as a whole and much more. Read what Chris Bosh had to say below.
ELLE: You put a lot of effort into making the 2008 All Star Team—you created a funny YouTube video in which you played a used-car salesman who was trying to get people to vote for you. What’s the hardest you’ve worked to woo a woman you admired?
Chris Bosh: It was with my fiancée [Adrienne Williams]. I met her in New York at a charity event—her friend liked the guy I was with. We eventually struck up a conversation and exchanged numbers. Then it was a true courting session over three months on the phone. I met her in July, and we didn’t go on our first date until October.
ELLE: Could you fall in love with a woman who didn’t care about basketball?
CB: I did. My fiancée only likes it now because I play. When she comes to the games, she’s watching when I’m in—and when I’m out, she’s talking with her friends.
ELLE: I encountered some footage of your cousin with your former girlfriend heckling LeBron James in 2008 when you were playing on opposing teams. Are there unofficial rules governing the behavior of players’ wives and girlfriends?
CB: That was embarrassing. A woman shouldn’t heckle. In the public eye, you have to represent not only you but your spouse, too. You have to be a lady. She just has to sit there, clap, and look pretty.
ELLE: Your fiancée is beautiful, but I have to say, I was a little shocked to see photos showing the size difference between you two: She’s five feet tall and you’re almost seven feet tall. Even in heels, her head seems to not quite reach your chest.
CB: You get used to it. If you were to ask her, “Do you really notice it?” she’d be like, “No.” I can understand how it might look bizarre to other people, but to me, it’s normal. I have a history of dating smaller w
ELLE: I don’t want to put this too graphically, but are there any, uh, complications with such a size difference? If you were eye to eye, her feet would pretty much be at your crotch level.
CB: You always make things work.
ELLE: I won’t delve further. I saw pictures of your palatial home in Miami: white carpets, white floors, white furniture. I wondered if you insist that anyone who comes in don those footies that scientists wear in sterile environments.
CB: We do ask people to take their shoes off. But we try to prevent any accidents by policing it early.
ELLE: Like, some tipsy woman with a glass of merlot will get ejected?
CB: They won’t get ejected. It will be more like, “Hey! Don’t go over there with that red wine!”
ELLE: Everything I know about basketballers with stories like yours—exceptional high school players drafted into the pros young—suggests there must have been a buffet of women available at all times. Was racking up numbers ever appealing to you?
CB: I’ve never really been a guy like that. I like intimacy with just one person who you can share your secrets and thoughts and ambitions with. In our profession, we’re in pretty vulnerable positions sometimes, so that can either motivate you to take advantage, or it can scare you a little bit. It scared me.
ELLE: I imagine there are plenty of ways for a rich young man to get in trouble with women. Does the NBA provide counseling for players on how to avoid entanglements?
CB: Yeah, they have programs like that, but they can tell you all they want to—at the end of the day, you’re out in the world experiencing things for yourself. Unfortunately, sometimes you’re going to make mistakes.
ELLE: Let’s imagine I get drafted and secure a $100 million NBA contract. What’s your advice about all the hot ladies buzzing around?
CB: Just listen to your instincts. Don’t talk to someone or start a relationship out of pity.
ELLE: Players get into relationships based on pity?
CB: Oh, most definitely.
ELLE: Do NBA players go into clubs, locate the least attractive girl, and say, “Gee, I feel sorry for her—I’m going to give her a Bentley and move her into my house”?
CB: No, but we’re talking about something that could develop over time. Everybody in this world isn’t good people. So you have to learn that and learn to look for certain signs when you’re out there.
ELLE: What do women who don’t know you frequently misunderstand about you?
CB: People in general misunderstand me. I’m very aware of the stereotype that comes with being a basketball player. But I’m well-rounded. I’m cultured. It’s funny: When I speak, people are like, “Wow! You can really talk.” I’m like, “What did you expect?”
ELLE: The Heat’s president, Pat Riley, is pretty dapper. Has he ever offered you any advice about women?
CB: He hasn’t, but we were at a Christmas party recently, and he said that he and his wife had been together for 43 years, and she stopped him and said, “No, it’s actually only been 42.” And he went, “Okay, then I must have just been dreaming about you for one of them.” And everybody was like, “Oh, I gotta write that one down.”